Digital Love in Modern Times: Safeguarding Your Heart and Data Online

February, often dubbed the “month of love”, is upon us, bringing with it heart-shaped chocolates, romantic dinners, and warm sentiments exchanged between loved ones. As Cupid readies his arrows for Valentine’s Day, many individuals are already immersed in the digital realm, hoping to make connections and perhaps even find love.

Yet, as with many things in the digital age, love isn’t without its complications.

Imagine this: You’ve found someone interesting on a dating app. Their profile pictures look too good to be true (because sometimes they are). The conversation flows effortlessly, and soon, plans to meet are in the works. Only, when the time comes, they seem to have one emergency after another, preventing a face-to-face encounter. Sounds familiar? You might be brushing with a catfisher.

The realm of online dating, much like other parts of the internet, is ripe for exploitation. Scammers, donning the disguise of potential mates, often engage in social media exploitation, targeting unsuspecting individuals to extort money or personal data. Their tactics can range from invoking sympathy with sob stories to blackmail using intimate photos.

Now, as dreamy as the thought of meeting someone online might be, it’s worth noting that not every story of digital love ends in a fairy-tale manner. Some tales conclude with a compromised bank account or, worse, a broken heart coupled with stolen identity.

In the backdrop of such threats, it’s crucial to be both emotionally and digitally savvy. Here are a few precautions for those looking to keep their love life online:

  1. Verify, then Trust: If a profile appears too polished or their stories sound too rehearsed, do a quick reverse image search of their photos. This could help ascertain if the pictures are lifted from another source.
  2. Keep Intimate Details Private: While sharing might seem like caring, be wary of giving out too much personal information upfront. Hold off on sharing intimate photos or videos, especially if you’re not sure about the other person’s intentions.
  3. Financial Red Flags: Be skeptical if your new online love interest suddenly finds themselves in a financial crunch, seeking your assistance. Many scammers spin tales of woe to play on their victims’ emotions and wallets.
  4. Take It Slow: While the digital age is all about instant gratifications, taking things slow in the world of online dating can save you a lot of grief. Get to know the person, consider video calls before meeting in person, and trust your instincts.
  5. Up Your Privacy Game: Ensure that your own social media profiles aren’t giving away too much about you. Regularly update your privacy settings, and be cautious about whom you accept as friends or followers.

In the spirit of Valentine’s, let’s sprinkle in a bit of humor. Remember, if you’re feeling particularly vulnerable this season, chocolates, unlike potential online scammers, are rarely deceptive (unless we’re talking about that mystery box where half of them are flavors nobody likes).

In conclusion, while the age of the internet offers unprecedented opportunities to meet and connect with people worldwide, it also demands an unprecedented level of caution. As you embark on your digital love journey this February, remember to safeguard both your heart and your data. After all, the best matches are built on trust, and nothing says “I trust you” like ensuring your mutual digital safety.

Facebook officially adds dating service

This article was originally published in The Troy Messenger on September 13, 2019.

Greg Price

Last week, to some fanfare, Facebook announced the launch of Facebook Dating in the United States. I admit when I saw the press release, I wasn’t shocked.

First, let’s be honest, Facebook has been a dating platform unofficially for a long time. If you’re unaware of folks who use the service to scout would-be romantic partners, you’re not very observant. In fact, I suspect you’ve all heard someone say, “I’ll check them out on Facebook first,” when a prospective dating opportunity surfaces.

Given the number of divorce cases that I’ve assisted attorneys with over the past decade, Facebook might also be not only a “dating platform”, but rather a conduit for divorce. With the rise of FOMO (fear of missing out) among dedicated users of social media services, the anxiety of not being able to participate in an upcoming event, might also include the fear of missing out on the next best partner.

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